How to effectively problem-solve in mediation- The Top Down approach

The ‘Top-down approach’ to problem-solving, in mediation This approach started to develop, in my mind and on paper, when I read; Conflicts- a better way to resolve them- Edward De Bono. Mediation is an outcome focused process so, logically, begin read more

How to listen ‘to understand’- 5 core skills

So, you want, no, NEED to feel understood ? Why is it that your work colleagues always jump down your throat when you suggest something at work? Why is that your former partner always seems to misunderstand what you are read more

If you really want to succeed in mediation- When the going gets tough..

When the going gets tough, the tough get going. So the saying goes and this is certainly true of mediation. Mediation is helping 1000’s of separating couples every year to reach their own agreements, avoid court and save many £1000’s. read more

Finding a way through difficult conversations

Some facilitators find it a challenge to contain and diffuse ‘eruptions’ in their meetings. Here is a simple approach and suggested sequence of questions to consider and adapt for your own use focusing on peoples core values and interests, to read more

FREE Self-help series -How to reach your own maintenance agreements

When a couple separate, despite the pain one or both may be feeling, most separating couples admit, during calmer more reflective post separation periods, that they need to work together to sort out their finances and continue to parent their read more

Is that really such a good plan?

Are you doing the same things over and over BUT expecting things to improve? People often want to tell me, in mediation assessments, how unreasonable their former partner has been, their ‘blame’ narrative. So, unreasonable, in fact, that their former read more

Helping with child arrangements on the Gov.UK website Get help with child arrangements Use this guide if you need to make or change child arrangements (also known as custody or contact) with the other parent. For example, you may need to decide where your children will live read more

10 questions to improve your ‘parenting relationship’

Many separated parents come to mediation with many ‘entrenched negative beliefs’ about each other and the situation, rooted in a narrative defined by blame, self-justification and self-righteous indignation creating barriers to a positive parenting relationship. If separated parents are truly read more