John and Mary had been married for 10 years and had three children. Over the years the relationship had always been somewhat rocky but in the last three years, it took a turn for the worse. John had lost his
Some injustices can never be resolved. Most of us make a complaint when we don’t receive good service or there is negligent behaviour on the part of a professional delivering a service to us or our family. Organisations tend to
By Ed Cooper, Retired Consultant Paediatrician, Relate Therapist Some dozen years ago I was on an overseas trip with a small team of colleagues. After our work, relaxed evening chat came naturally. I mentioned the enmities among the team of
Many separated parents come to mediation with many ‘entrenched negative beliefs’ about each other and the situation, rooted in a narrative defined by blame, self-justification and self-righteous indignation creating barriers to a positive parenting relationship. If separated parents are truly
This morning I was taking a credit card number from a client. Of the 23 numbers taken, one was incorrect. As a result, the system broke down and payment was not accepted. A few days ago, I received a referral
Why is it so important to put your parenting relationship first? Because your children need you too! IF you are serious about not wanting them to suffer from their parents separation and the conflict that often ensues. What do I
I am sure that this question must vex mediators all over the world. It is often down to the skill of the mediator to persuade and influence everyone in dispute to give mediation their best shot but the mediator needs an opportunity to
The term ‘survival of the fittest’ is forever associated with the English naturalist and writer, Charles Darwin (1809-1882). Many interpret the phrase to mean that the strongest and healthiest survive while the weaker and more sickly die quicker. While this
One of the highlights for me of a recent presentation given by Dr Gabija about neuroscience and conflict was the part when she talked about ‘mammalian brain’ dominant traits compared with ‘human brain’ dominant traits (and ‘reptilian brain’ which this article
Below, I list some of the barriers I believe many clients experience when considering family mediation as an option and during the mediation process. There is a natural tendency on separation and divorce, generally fed by a sense of fear and