What is Conflict Management Coaching ?

John E Hind
Categories: Coaching, Teaching, Uncategorised

Conflict Management Coaching

This article provides an overview of conflict management coaching in its various forms and various applications. At Compass Resolution we distinguish our Compass Coaching service by the area of expertise required whether this is coaching within the family, workplace or business negotiation.

We will use the term Conflict Management Coaching broadly to include the services we offer including business conflict and family consultancy.

Scenarios

Workplace

Karen was promoted to a management position four months ago. In the past month, three staff members complained to her boss, saying Karen’s micromanagement was stifling them and that she argues with them when they ask for more autonomy. The boss conveyed this to Karen who reacted strongly, pointing out that staffs’ bad habits require her to “manage them tightly.” Karen is concerned that her response to her boss may be career-limiting and she wonders what to do about this situation and her style of management.

Divorce and Separation

James and Margarite separated a year ago and both are reluctant to hire lawyers because they fear the cost. Margarite read about collaborative family law and mediation, but she anticipates James will resist her efforts to move things along, even in these ways. Margarite may want to see a coach to explore these options and prepare her to communicate with James in a way he may best receive her suggestions.

Business

Caroline is the CEO of a major retail store. She is about to enter into major negotiations with the competition about a possible merger. A skilled negotiator, Caroline knows a lot is at stake and, although she has had much experience to date, she finds herself inordinately concerned about the upcoming discussions. Caroline may want a coach to help her prepare for these negotiations.

Whether mediation or coaching is used or a combination of both, depends on several factors, including the preferences and objectives of the person seeking assistance.

For instance, Karen may want help on how to structure a conversation with her boss to rectify matters. She may also want some coaching on how to improve her management style to avoid similar problems in the future. Margarite may want to see a coach to explore her options and to help prepare her to communicate with James in a way he may best receive her suggestions. Caroline may want a coach to help address her concerns and prepare for these negotiations.

Growth of Coaching

Since the early 1990s, there has been an exponential growth in the field of coaching and its range of categories, including executive, organizational, life and family, and business coaching. There has also been an increase in coaching specialties, ranging from career coaching to weight loss coaching to parent coaching, and so on. In the Dispute Resolution field, conflict management coaching is fast emerging as a specialised skill. This article provides a perspective on some of its applications.

A Definition of Conflict Coaching

Conflict coaching is a one-on-one process for helping individuals improve their conflict understanding and skills, to manage conflict and disputes more effectively.

This definition, and variations of it, are used to describe a technique with the fundamental objective of coaching people to better engage in their interpersonal conflicts in both their personal and professional lives.

Assisting individuals with their interpersonal conflicts is not a new concept. Indeed, union representatives, counsellors from employee assistance programs, managers, supervisors, and HR professionals, routinely assist individuals with conflict situations in the workplace. Similarly, therapists, psychologists and other human services professionals assist people with conflict in their personal and professional lives.

The word “coaching” however, is being used by many professionals and practitioners in these various groups, although their practices may not necessarily fit within the definition of coaching according to one of the coaching field’s main organizations, the International Coach Federation.

The following is part of a general definition of coaching, as stated by the International Coach Federation:

Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaching is an ongoing relationship which focuses on clients taking action toward the realisation of their visions, goals or desires. Coaching uses a process of inquiry and personal discovery to build the client’s level of awareness and responsibility and provides the client with structure, support and feedback.

Unlike sports coaching, conflict coaching, as many other types of coaching, does not entail advising people what to do to improve their actions and reach their goals. Rather, one of the cornerstones of the field of coaching is self-determination and one of the main skills of trained coaches is the use of powerful questions that increase insights and awareness that help people, to help themselves.

Applications of Conflict Management Coaching

Currently, conflict management coaching as a distinct technique and professional appears to be growing mostly in workplaces as an additional option for employees and tool for mediators, whether or not there is an Integrated (Informal) Conflict Management System and Progamme or not.

This technique may be used instead of, or in tandem with, mediation and other Dispute Resolution processes. In addition to helping individuals improve their conflict management skills in any context, some other applications of conflict coaching include:

as a pre-mediation or pre-other dispute resolution process to help individuals anticipate and prepare for any challenges and to effectively participate in the process;
to prepare clients to actively and effectively participate in collaborative law meetings;
as a post-mediation or post-other dispute resolution process to help individuals with the aftermath of any unresolved matters and ways to manage ongoing interactions;
to help managers, supervisors and others focus on aspects of their conflict conduct requiring improvement;
to help people enhance their negotiation skills;
as an integral part of conflict management training, to provide individualised ongoing assistance with participants’ specific challenges; and,
to facilitate self-reflective practice of conflict management professionals and others who work in any capacity, with people in conflict.

Summary

As an additional tool for Dispute Resolution professionals, conflict management coaching represents a multi-faceted process that is adaptable to the specific conflict management goals of the individuals who seek coaching. Although there are a number of similarities between some aspects of conflict coaching and mediation (and other DR processes), there are a number of significant differences, besides the one-on-one nature of coaching. For instance, the types of goals an individual may bring to a coach are not necessarily about resolving issues.

We are constantly developing more applications for our conflict management coaching service to provide individualized assistance for our clients to be able to engage in their interpersonal conflicts more effectively.

So, if you require assistance please call us or complete our call back online form.

This article was taken from an article written by Cinnie Noble [Cinnie Noble, ACC, CM, LL.M. (ADR), lawyer-mediator and ICF certified coach, co-chair of the ICF’s Special Interest Group on Conflict Coaching]