0.00-01.30 – Introduction
02.00 – As a Divorce Coach, how can you help and support the separating couple ?
02.30 – It is about helping the couple to find the right support to help each and both of them taking into account their unique experiences, raising their awareness and understanding of the emotional journey they are each going through
04.00 – I help them understand and provide skills and tools to better self-manage and self-regulate, process and transition so that the couple can better engage in the formal processes like mediation, showing up as the best version of ourselves, creating a better connection with themselves and each other.
05.45 – How do you help with tools including homework you give your clietts to help them develop their skills such as working with the wheel of emotion (link) and understand what is driving their behaviours – Meeting unmet needs.
09.00 – How is Coaching different from Counselling and Therapy
11.00 – How might the different emotional journeys translate into how a couple communicate more effectively? Strategies and approaches…
12.20 – I work with how people ‘operate’- Belief systems, Metaprograms, Value hierarchies etc that influence thinking, feeling, behaviour etc- What is impacting on each person, What triggers, evokes challenging communication.
13.50 – I help client look at different and alternative perspectives addressing anxieties and fears using metaphors, future focused thinking etc
14.33 – Having identified some of the triggers that evoke communication I might start helping both of the couple to understand the impact of their behaviour (what they say,, how they say it) on each other ie what do they witness, helping them identify patterns.
15.00 – I then help the couple look at the part of the pattern ie their communication, what they say etc, the part they can control to achieve better outcomes, centralising and steamlining changes of behaviour creating structure and boundaries around communication to improve how you respond etc
15.45 – John Hind – This is how I might use some of these skills in mediation.
19.30 – How can the Divorce Coach helps and support the couple to work with the mediator given how the Mediator is working with the couple in mediation.
20.40 – How are you going to deal with potential conflict in the future. The Divorce Coach helps with this, very important for Co-parenting relationships and making decisions together for the children
23.00 – To what extent do the children play a part in your work as a coach?
27.00 – Resources- Do you have any practical resources you favour?
29.50 – The three main core areas are the emotional (comm) processes and journey, the mindset (self esteem, self worth) and how want to rebuild their lives.
31.00 – Another way of looking at resources is to divide them into experts, written resources, support programmes.
32.00 – It is so important for the couple to be getting their information from the same or similar sources, if possible
33.00 – How do couples find their way to you and what happens when they do
I offer a free 45 minute Discovery session/consultation to understand the narrative and explain what I do and how I work- 4 areas:
Legal support, financial, emotional, practical support
Online calendar system, 5 sessions at a time
37.00 – What would it be useful for a Divorce Coach to know from the mediator and the mediation process to help you support the couple and how can you work effectively with the mediation process